Like some of the tastiest recipes, the best moments in life have few ingredients.
Savor the simplicity of family and friends. Relish water, sun and trees.
Best when marinated in love and sautéed in the spirit of felicity.
I took a sabbatical last month and shared some of my stories at my Toastmasters club in Phoenix, AZ.
Click on link below to hear my tale:
What is the reality you most need to acknowledge?
Sitting in a stark, bare-walled apartment with most of my possessions packed in boxes helped clarify my reality last month. The lack of distractions (no TV, no pictures, no knick knacks) enabled me to focus on what is important and clearly see the challenge (and the monster puzzle) at hand.
Yes, I’m moving again for the 21st time since I graduated college but this time is different since I did most of the packing on the weekends after going to yoga class. These weekly treks to Yoga Yoga in North Austin were not just any class. They were inspirational and dare I say, life changing. The two instructors, Lisa and Kimberly are amazing examples of strong, grounded woman and they helped me more than they know.
When the dreaded day came and I needed to pack the kitchen, I had an exciting new angle and attitude about it.
If you want to resolve something- you have to look at it… really look at it. These were the wise words I heard from Lisa. I was reminded to see things again for the first time, like a beginner entering a yoga pose.
A camera workshop I recently attended in Bastrop, TX, taught me to step back and look at the big picture and to zoom in closely to see important details.
All of the ideas that had been swirling around in my head came together with a simple, yet brilliant principle- “The Oz Principle” to be exact. This book by Roger Connor, Tom Smith and Craig Hickman was introduced to me at work this year and provided simple yet elegant steps to accountability. Like following the yellow brick road to get to the Emerald City, you put one foot in front of the other on and take the following steps:
It coalesced for me in my barren Austin apartment when I focused (no pun intended) on the See It part. I also took out my camera to document the process so I could share it with you in this blog.
Before I dove right into fixing and solving my problem at hand, I took a breath and a step back and truly viewed the challenge at hand. What was I dealing with?
What was my challenge that hot and swampy day in the Austin apartment?
I had the dreaded and monumental task of packing the kitchen for an out of state move. Anyone who has moved before knows the feeling that this undertaking brings up and I’m reaching for my Tums just thinking about it.
As I stood back in the small kitchen space of the apartment, I decided that this time would be different. This time I would solve my problem more efficiently and effectively. This time I would see it before I would solve it. I would solve it before I jumped into action to do it.
For my kitchen-packing project, I also used my Scrum Master training to break down the enormous undertaking into smaller, more digestible chunks.
For fun and because I’m a Project Manager geek, I documented the steps of my exciting, new packing process and have outlined them below.
Here are the steps for quick and easy kitchen packing:
It was like solving a big puzzle and I had fun with it.
Seeing it help me in this endeavor because I was able to take a step back and truly assess what I was dealing with before I acted to fix the problem.
Seeing the reality in front of you clearly and honestly without filters is one of the most difficult things to do since we all have our internal biases and frames of reference.
So while you may not be packing soon for a move across the country, you will be faced with some daunting and complex challenges ( I like to call them puzzles) in the coming weeks or months. Problems are part of life and it sure is nice when we have better tools and techniques for clarifying and resolving them.
The light bulb went off when I realized that this concept of “Putting everything out on the counter” and Seeing It could be applied to many other areas of my life.
I guess it’s like dealing with the elephant in the room. You have to 1) acknowledge that you have an elephant ( or a smelly fish) present, 2) truly see the size and nature of the elephant and 3) honestly assess it and see the reality of the situation.
Viewing the puzzle from various angles and sides is also helpful. The back side of the elephant gives you a much different perspective that just seeing the trunk or the leg.
So what is the reality you most need to acknowledge?
What puzzle/obstacle/opportunity are you ready to see clearly before you jump right in to solving?
Remember the Oz Principle of Seeing It, Owning It, Solving It and Doing It.
For when Dorothy finally arrived at the beautiful Emerald City to see the Wizard, she had to draw back the curtain to see the true situation before she was able to get back home.
The rain passed and the sun shone brightly on our annual girlfriends weekend adventure. Like the venerable Taos Pueblo, our friendships are earthy, authentic, stable and grounded.
Our relationships are also like diamonds. They have clarity, they are clear and they are bright.
I cherish these trips more and more each year and appreciate the gifts they bring.
A treasure trove of experience and exploration, these adventures are authentic and restorative as my friends give me perspective, advice and opinions.
We hike, we eat, we share, we dream.
We adjust each other as we stretch and help perfect yoga poses.
We soak in warm tubs and openly discuss whatever if on our minds.
These friendships are enduring (not the “friend-for-a-season, friend-for-a-reason” variety so common today).
My friends are precious gems and will be there for the duration.
Our trips are real and pure with limited use of texting and iPhones at the table during meals, limited talk of news we can’t control, no gossip and no drama.
We talk, we discuss, we debate and we look directly into each other’s eyes. We have true connections with wonderful things like nuance and non-verbal expressions.
We appreciate our freedoms and the exquisiteness of the land and reflect on the beauty of our brilliant friendships.
Like diamonds, I treasure the moments we spend together. I treasure these women like the precious gems that they are.
Tabby, the Ruby, whose high energy and sense of adventure guides us to the next exciting destination.
Nancy, the Pearl, whose wisdom and inner strength shines through the tough journeys of life.
Clarissa, the Sapphire, whose creative expression quietly brings joy, peace and beauty to those around her.
I have an affinity for the Peridot, which has been long considered to be an aid to friendship by bringing optimism and good cheer.
So I lift my glass to you my brilliant friends and say “Thank You!” for your kindness, support and wonderful company.
Thank you for shining brightly on whatever location we venture to.